It's just a small, white envelope stuck among the branches of our
Christmas tree. No name, no identification, no inscription. It has peeked
through the branches of our tree for the past 10 years or so. It all began because
my husband Mike hated Christmas. Oh, not the true meaning of Christmas, but the commercial
aspects of it overspending... the frantic running around at the last minute to get a tie
for Uncle Harry and the dusting powder for Grandma the gifts given in desperation because
you couldn't think of anything else. Knowing he felt this way, I decided one year to
bypass the usual shirts, sweaters, ties and so forth. I reached for something
special just for Mike. The inspiration came in an unusual way. Our son Kevin, who
was 12 that year, was wrestling at the junior level at the school he attended; and shortly
before Christmas, there was a non-league match against a team sponsored by an inner-city
church, mostly black.
These youngsters, dressed in sneakers so ragged that shoestrings seemed to be the only
thing holding them together, presented a sharp contrast to our boys in their spiffy blue
and gold uniforms and sparkling new wrestling shoes. As the match began, I was
alarmed to see that the other team was wrestling without headgear, a kind of light helmet
designed to protect a wrestler's ears. It was a luxury the ragtag team obviously could not
afford. Well, we ended up walloping them. We took every weight class. And as
each of their boys got up from the mat, he swaggered around in his tatters with false
bravado, a kind of street pride that couldn't acknowledge defeat. Mike, seated beside me,
shook his head sadly, "I wish just one of them could have won," he said.
"They have a lot of potential, but losing like this could take the heart right out of
them." Mike loved kids all kids and he knew them, having coached little league
football, baseball and lacrosse. That's when the idea for his present came. That
afternoon, I went to a local sporting goods store and bought an assortment of wrestling
headgear and shoes and sent them anonymously to the inner-city church. On Christmas
Eve, I placed the envelope on the tree, the note inside telling Mike what I had done and
that this was his gift from me. His smile was the brightest thing about Christmas
that year and in succeeding years. For each Christmas, I followed the tradition one
year sending a group of mentally handicapped youngsters to a hockey game, another year a
check to a pair of elderly brothers whose home had burned to the ground the week before
Christmas, and on and on. The envelope became the highlight of our Christmas.
It was always the last thing opened on Christmas morning and our children, ignoring their
new toys, would stand with wide-eyed anticipation as their dad lifted the envelope from
the tree to reveal its contents. As the children grew, the toys gave way to more practical
presents, but the envelope never lost its allure.
The story doesn't end there. You see, we lost Mike last year due to dreaded cancer.
When Christmas rolled around, I was still so wrapped in grief that I barely got the
tree up. But Christmas Eve found me placing an envelope on the tree, and in the
morning, it was joined by three more. Each of our children, unbeknownst to the others, had
placed an envelope on the tree for their dad. The tradition has grown and someday
will expand even further with our grandchildren standing around the tree with wide-eyed
anticipation watching as their fathers take down the envelope. Mike's spirit, like the
Christmas spirit, will always be with us.
May we all remember Christ, who is the reason for the season, and the true Christmas
spirit this year and always. God bless, pass this along to your friends and loved ones.
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